I Want To Be..

The Option.

Why 'marry' when you can 'live-in' is the option.

Decades back when the concept of live-in relationship first cropped up; society was
flabbergasted. How dare a couple cohabit without being legally bonded in matrimony asked a conservative lot. But those who dared to rebel, still chose to live-in. Today, with the number of live-in pairs having increased multi-fold, it is deeply ingrained in the DNA of the metro-culture, making it a norm. So much so, recently a supreme court bench headed by Justice Arijit Parayat declared that children born out of such a relationship will no longer be called illegitimate.

"The word marriage puts me off" would be a rude or not-so-satisfying reason as to why couples opt for live-in relationship over marriage. Fear of being taken for granted may be the other reason. Or marriage being defined as the boys getting their prey. Saving money, thrill and convenience also finds itself among the reasons. There are also excuses supporting the couples decisions to go for live-in. "I have the greatest respect for marriage and I guess I'll get there someday" or "There's just a piece of paper missing. May be someday, We'll get around and get that piece of paper. But to me, we are as married as we'd be if a priest read out some shlokas". These excuses contain a lot of guesses and maybe's, if's and but's which make this live-in option a bit 'wild'. For some, just the sheer thrill to be the odd one out has made them choose the 'wild' option.

While some feel marriage brings with it security and commitment others could feel boredom to go through the rigmaroles of filing in papers in the court of law.

India has still a long way to go to accept such a Bohemian lifestyle. It is taking baby steps towards it.

Whether one chooses to sign on a piece of paper and believe that their relationship is more authentic or one defies it for precisely the same reason it is a personal choice. Each couple has their own reasons to stay in that arrangement. But what's surely refreshing is the way the society is accepting radical changes.

Imagine the concept of a 'bastard child' being eradicated completely. Way to go!

Perfect Ten.

Cricket is said to be a teams game and it happens very rarely that a lone man wins matches on his sheer brilliance.

On the 7th of feb, 1999 one man won India a test single-handedly. Anil Kumble against arch rivals Pakistan became the second man to take all ten wickets in an innings.

Pakistan in its second innings at the Ferozshah Kotla in Delhi fell like nine pins to Kumble's guile. The karnataka spinner who is known for his aggression and fighting spirit, took the talented pakistani batsmen heads on and like a warrior annihilated the entire batting order in a matter of few hours ending up with beautiful figures of 10 for 74.

Chasing a mammoth 420 Pakistani openers Saeed Anwar and Shahid Afridi gave them a solid start but then Kumble got into his act, demolishing the batting order which included Inzamam-ul-Haq, Ijaz Ahmad, Salim Malik and Mohammed Yousuf. From 101 for no loss they were 128 for 6. Pakistani showed some resistance for while when they added 58 runs for the seventh wicket. I guees, they were playing for pride.

But Kumble son polished off their tail in a clinical fashion to equal Jim Laker's feat after 42 years and draw level in the two match series.

What's the harm in electing such a man to be the captain of India, at 37.

Cards Of Life And Death.

Why Doesn't Anything Happen To Him?

The Answers Are Within.

Stephen covey, in the seven habits of highly effective people, shares an experience that he once had while travelling on the new york sub way.

Imagine you are riding the subway early one morning, and everybody appears to be comfortable--people are drinking their coffee, reading their newspapers and magazines, working on their laptops, talking on their cell phones. Everything is normal and peaceful. At each station, a few people get off, a few people get on, everything is calm and sedate, until the train stops at a particular station and a man walks onto your train car with his children. He finds seats for them and then sits down in a reflective mood. While he is in deep meditation, the children begin to run up and down the aisle, screaming and shouting, running all over the train car.

How do you feel? Are you mad at the man?why are you mad?you are perhaps thinking, this man should take care of his children in public. If he does not know how to take care of children, why did he have them in the first place! Are you mad at the children for making so much noise? Spoiled kids! You might think. You notice there is no mother. Now you might be thinking, i bet the mother left this man with these undisciplined children. See yourself going up to this irresponsible father and confronting him, saying "excuse me, sir, would you mind tending your children? They're being so disruptive, and i think everybody is getting a little upset." The man looks up at you and says, "Two hours ago these children lost their mother in the hospital. She just died, and ever since then i have trying to explain to them the death of their mother, and their only reaction is this."

Now how do you feel?

Situations in themselves do not produce feelings. It is our perception of them that makes us feel good or bad.

Raped?

Each time there is a natural disaster or a terrorist attack, the government awards compensation to the victims. So you have a relief for floods, earthquake, riot victims, blast survivors, so on and so forth..And now, every time a rape is reported, the victim will be entitled to monetary compensation, as a centre for relief for rape is on the anvil.

As per the scheme designed by the National Commission for Women[NCW] victims of rape will now get cash compensation of RS 2 lakh to Rs 5lakh.

--Rape victim or her legal heir can apply to the centre.

--The centre will be required to release Rs 20,000 as the interim relief to the victim.

--A copy of FIR and a medical report conforming the rape must accompany the application.

--The balance of the compensation amount will be handed over the course of the year.

This is absolutely absurd. It doesn't make any sense. You can't compensate a rape victim. What she wants is justice. She's not interested in money.

What is rape eventually? It is a gross crime! Instead of punishing the culprit, you are doing the reverse. By paying compensation to the victim are you trying to say theek hai, it is okay to rape? What kind of logic is this?

The need of the hour is an effective system which ensure faster rape trials. A centre for relief for rape will show at least some concern towards the rape victim.

While monetary compensation may help certain cases, what a victim perhaps needs most is: to regain her sense of self, to not to be called a 'rape victim' all her life, and most importantly, to see her perpetrator punished.

Orkut Is Not Banned. You Fool.

I would not consider this a social service.

Orkut is banned you fool--how many of us may have got this message when the orkut page is opened. Or how many of our
foolish friends might have given us the advice of formatting the Pc. Or how many of our Pc engineers might have charged
us a big amount to rectify the problem. Not any more.

This problem occurs due to the presence of the w32.USB Worm in the system. This particular virus is defined as which
hates Orkut, Firefox and You Tube. Well, i would not go by that. Because i don't give a fuck about what the fucking
virus likes or dislikes.

Henceforth whenever you encounter this problem follow the following simple steps then then relish Orkut.

1. Press CTRL+ALT+DEL and go to the processes tab
2. Look for svchost.exe under the image name. There will be many but look for the ones which have your username under
the username
3. Press DEL to kill these files. It will give you a warning, Press Yes
4. Repeat for more svchost.exe files with your username and repeat. Do not kill svchost.exe with system, local service or
network service!
5. Now open My Computer
6. In the address bar, type C:\heap41a and press enter. It is a hidden folder, and is not visible by default.
7. Delete all the files here
9. Now go to Start --> Run and type Regedit
10. You need to navigate to
"HKEY_LOCAL_MACHINE,SOFTWARE\Microsoft\Windows\CurrentVersion\Explorer\Advanced\
Folder\Hidden\SHOWALL, checkedvalue" And reset the “CheckedValue” key back to 1. This is to show all the hidden
files.
11. Then navigate to "HKEY_LOCAL_MACHINE,SOFTWARE\Microsoft\Windows\CurrentVersion\policies\Explorer\Run "
and delete the "winlogon" key. --- This will stop the worm installing at the start up.

..And hence you live with your Pc happily ever after.